tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7416328208371979012.post1121824270712923583..comments2023-10-20T06:37:51.148-07:00Comments on Breaking the Fourth Wall: Review: And Baby Makes Three by John Gottman, Ph.D.Lisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14612340863090247579noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7416328208371979012.post-68334359259749466452007-06-14T18:46:00.000-07:002007-06-14T18:46:00.000-07:00A little late for me, but we survived the baby yea...A little late for me, but we survived the baby years. I'm really enjoying having older children immensely.Bookfoolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08247136634069540446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7416328208371979012.post-39660466415987798322007-06-14T07:18:00.000-07:002007-06-14T07:18:00.000-07:00This author was briefly referred to in BLINK (Glad...This author was briefly referred to in BLINK (Gladwell). :)Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00832231139076878401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7416328208371979012.post-3481931081377758952007-06-12T09:32:00.000-07:002007-06-12T09:32:00.000-07:00I know this is completely unrelated, but on my blo...I know this is completely unrelated, but on my blog I found the degrees of separation between you and Edie Brickell, Lisa. George Stephanopolous was the key.kookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00994570192941993135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7416328208371979012.post-3870671421517262262007-06-12T05:07:00.000-07:002007-06-12T05:07:00.000-07:00Wow, sounds like an interesting book. As a mother ...Wow, sounds like an interesting book. As a mother of a two year old I do empathise with the couples who have problems - I had to really struggle in the first few months but things are definitely improving now... Might still be worth me reading it though...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7416328208371979012.post-83335710090471226632007-06-11T16:17:00.000-07:002007-06-11T16:17:00.000-07:00I don't know who you are talking about, but I thin...I don't know who you are talking about, but I think what he says is largely true, shocking as it may seem. In my experience, it is almost ALWAYS the woman who is unhappy; the man just wants her to be happy, that's all he wants. Almost the only time I've ever had a man call for therapy is when his wife says "I'm leaving" and he finally realizes that she really IS unhappy. (Inconceivable to him, because he usually feels fine).<BR/><BR/>It makes sense if you think more about it, because it's women who are the protectors and nurturers of emotional intimacy. They want more of it, and the men are baffled. (It's the "I married you didn't I?" syndrome). They just don't comprehend what women want.<BR/><BR/>Men usually like my brand of couples therapy, because I teach them (with humor) specific things to DO that will prove that 1) they do care about the woman and 2) they are trying.<BR/><BR/>I wouldn't say that I take the woman's SIDE. Women often have to tone down their expectations. Still, it's usually true that if you satisfy the woman's needs, the man is happy, too.<BR/><BR/>Sorry to confirm the bias. :)Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612340863090247579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7416328208371979012.post-91051742343506123272007-06-11T12:36:00.000-07:002007-06-11T12:36:00.000-07:00I read an article recently about a man who has a s...I read an article recently about a man who has a successful therapy practice counseling couples, and he says that his success is due to his always taking the woman's side. He believes that it is usually the woman who is unhappy over issues and the man is just unhappy that the woman is unhappy. I was really alarmed by this thinking. It seems bizarrely sexist. It also seems to me that he's going to do some couples a real disservice if they both (or maybe just the man) have real issues and he ignores those in favor of dealing only with the woman's issues. What do you think of his ideas? Have you read about this guy?Deweyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00395712971920800717noreply@blogger.com